its just not healthy, and far from normal. I like dogs and understand why other do as well. It is absolutely impossible to explain love and general care for an animal to someone that utterly hates them with a bloody passion. Firstly, they drool so seeing them drool around the kitchen table was gross (she called it cute, not cute!). [Reasons + Do This], Can Dogs Eat Strawberry Ice Cream? I know he made a commitment to the dog, but I guess I thought I was the more important one and when you are giving your dogs 4 different pills and a few injections of stuff to keep him healthy, happy and strong but he is 16 years old, its almost as if he never wants his dog to die. One time I went outside to grab something out of the car, I came back after a few minutes, the 50 pound dog jumped on the table, stole my food and it was scattered over the floor and there was a lake of pee in the living room. If he would offer to take the dog out once in a while, it would help. I said bye. My fianc s daughter (8) hates dogs and my fianc is not a pet person. Any chance of me getting attached to his dog flew out the window when he nipped at my son. We got a puppy at the beginning of last summer and he had gotten quite large by now. Im so happy I found this forum and to know that Im not alone! I guess I am just talking out of my a**, but it just seems easier if I was alone and maybe find someone who doesnt have a dog and actually thinks the way I do. or live a miserable life? If you want to change the way you do something with your petsfor example, allowing Fido to sleep in the bed or taking more frequent walks with your pet and your partnertalk to your partner before taking the plunge rather than making a decision and expecting him or her to abide by it. Jake- They are both 6 months old now, one of them has broken his leg under his watch because he thinks these types of dogs can be left unattended to frolic and have fun with out suppervision, making matters worse, i have kennel trained them both so when I cant supervise them, they are safe- he takes them out of the kennel and lets them loose out in our yard, our dog with the broken leg has now chewed of his cast and his blow off responce was well he would have chewed it off anyway No sir. Does he really need to do that? The cause of the sore is unknown to us but I a wondering if her contact with the dogs might be something to consider. The dog does not like being outdoors and scratches frantically. Sometimes I can hear him waiting and listening to my partners footsteps. My family hates all of my pets. They may be old dogs but he wants them around so hell likely get more dogs once these die and they would be younger for more years of pain. He is a dog owner himself, but has always adopted older animals, so he has never dealt with the puppy stage. I just cant grasp the thought process.. But they always had strict boundaries, training and manners. So, it should be done gradually and piecemeal. He was supportive of getting the dog although I knew he wasnt a massive animal person. I mean, he will come up to me after waking up maybe an hour or two after I have already woken and says he was on the bed and smirks about it like its a joke. Still not the worst part, many days there is s*** in that room and on many occasions he has stepped in it and spread it all down the hallway. This dog is seriously making my life hell. Hes got them in the habit of getting a treat when they do their business. She was prescribed Zovirax, which she takes whenever it starts to head it off or lessen it. Over time, she grew to to love the dog, despite its timid behaviors. B Our brains are capable of complex thought and emotion! If I had known just how badly she shed before I got into a relationship with my boyfriend I would have turned him down. My big dog is way too big to do that. Lastly, they tried to give me the third degree when I said that we crate our dog when we have visitors. My dog has seizures and is getting old and Im tired of listening to my husband about this. I truly love this girl but Im on my way out! He doesnt want to kennel a dog outside and I have to agree it is not ideal to do that. Just because you dont feel a certain way doesnt mean that everyone that doesnt feel that same way needs therapy. I guess 20 years was long enough for us, and I have had ducks, turtles, cats, fish, and a monitor (big lizard) all without his blessing and he let me do it, not because it made him happy but because it made me happy. He admitted hed never told me he was frightened of them and thought it wouldnt be an issue, despite knowing how much I wanted a dog. It was fine until the dog got older and bigger. My bf make excuses for the dog. uh yeah right. So he has the entire morning to do this, but he "struggles to wake up". STOP being so self involved and worrying about your own feelings. I keep telling myself that the novelty of having his dog back will wear off and he will soon be back to giving me the kisses and cuddlesbut its hard to sit back and wait till that happens, and what if the novelty doesnt wear off. Im trying to work things out but he ignores me. So, she did depend on them and treated them like humans (something she even admitted she has to stop doingtreating them like humans). we moved in together after we got married and the cat came too. But its not the poor canines fault that the masses have chosen to objectify the loyal animal forgetting this is a living creature not a fad. Instead, it is all about the dogs. Live my life wanting to keep him happy? They both are very jealous and possessive dogs! Its great sleeping next to my hubby and not all our four legged loves Woohoo. His parents are just as bad, they call the dog their grandkid and call several times a day to check on the dog. I even had my dignity as a woman taken away from me at one point when my husband was ill and I walked into the living room to find the dog laying with her back against the couch and him laying on the floor facing her placing her rear legs on his side. That causes me much sorrow. Its pure selfishness and theres nothing you can do about it. She ended up being not even the breed they claimed. So dont place a lot of credibility in that theory either. They think its ok to be controlling but dont like it when that is challenged for good reasons. Thankfully, the trainer was able to work with them to correct that behavior. Get advice from a dog behaviorist: But, you shouldnt do this right away as you realize the reason. The good majority of comments from women are posted out of emotion rather than from a rational point of view. (I did not blame the dog, but my cat died a terrible death and I was devastated.). Yeah plenty of men like well behaved dogs that arent trained by women who worship the dog like ot walks on water. Shes pregnant!!!!! For reference, my garden is my sanctuary and my one place I can go to relax. I said screw it at one point and kicked him out of the room and shut the door on him. I have family member with dogs, and non of their dogs are behaving in a way that these 2 do. Im not a dog and wont be treated like that. Do dogs stick to mating with one partner, and one partner only till death do them part? She gets fever blisters, but not from the dogs. Shes a one person dog. Understand that each can be a part of your life if you wise up and stop ruining your dogs life by allowing it to expect to live as a human. My husband loves our dogs as much as I do. HOW IN THE HELL IS THIS WORTH IT??? Its so dumb splitting for an animal. Even tho hes an chow chow, hes very sweet to other dogs and her. He scampers all over it and it is filthy from him.The only brand new mats I was ever able to afford stink of dog and have had puppy wee and poo liberally since the day he was bought home. Its not about choosing a dog over someone, its about being too different. If you endeavor with a strong mind, you will be able to turn this offensive dog into an affectionate, kind to kids, loving canine. I decided to just try it out.my bad mistake. The dog is 10 years old roughly and does not listen at all. Consult your veterinarian: Its always better to chat with your veterinarian in order to make sure if there is any health-related issue that triggers this lousy behavior. Wow. I was never able to spoon with my husband or cuddle, since he would be spooning with one of the dogs. This thing is hyper and destructive, and my husband refuses to make it ever behave. Hes supposed to be able to go in every room, lay on the couch, and cuddle with you in bed, and if you dont allow this, then you need to give him to someone who does. My dog IS a one-person-dog. They would constantly try to seek attention when we cuddle together, follow us everywhere and constantly be in the way. I also said that i dont want to buy all this new stuff only for them to go and ruin it. I volunteer in animals shelters.. and it is nice to be able to get the animal fix of missing my dogs and cats by doing that.. Before my husband came into my life not liking animals was a deal breaker for me. How on earth was I supposed to know that someone was going to treat their dog like an infantile god-being? I need advice! But he would rub the dogs back abd love on her back before he evens thinks of me. Hardwood floor. Ive visited other dog related websites and you wouldnt believe how some people react when you arent a complete and total dog nut. When I married my husband, I knew he was a waterfowl hunter and a dog is part of the equipment. 6. So to be honest to myself and to my husband, I did get the third dog because for the first time I wanted to have MY own dog. then why cant SHE take the cat, if its hers? After a huge fight among many, I laid awake all night thinking I cant do this anymore. My husband and I have always had dogs, three of them due to the three children, you know how that goes. Now you know the reasons why your husband/boyfriend needs to get rid of the dog and the exact solutions you can take. He keeps going on about how the dog is older and has always been by his side, I seriously can never win! I bought one of those First Alert Bark Genies (sits on a table) and it seems to be workingyou might try that to get some peace. Its been a month since Ive written and my girl friend and I broke up. You dont get rid of the dog, you train the dog. At the time I met my partner I had 6 rescue dogs. I have no bond with this dog maybe because I feel in tired of cleaning every inch of the house before and after work and it still smell stinky from the Min Pin using our house as the bathroom. So over time, I became very resentful and frustrated! We are renovating a 1958 house with every penny we can during my weekends she actually does very little in this project, but its not about all that its about her boundless defence of these dogs that cost a fortune. I just needed to vent and be honest somewhere. I think the marriage should be prioirity number 1 and that both parties should agree on this. I feel that I never had privacy with my husband, with always those dogs around, on the couch, at the kitchen table, while cooking, while being outside, even in the bedroom!! Maybe our guys should get together and have fun talking and babying those ugly little beasts. All controlling? I love some dogs, like my own, but I do not love chihuahuas. Its the worst thing ever. She cages her alk day an pays no attention to her what can i do. I think that dog fanaticism/fetishism is a growing mental disorder. I dont know why people like that breed. Gosh That just tells us how your character is. Why am I still around? My sister has five dogs same thing. I feel more secure and protected. It is ridiculous. It literally is her loss Jake. You are both digging in your heels and being adamant. Its called triangulation, Sounds like your partner is a narcissist, please join a narcissist support group on Facebook and check for yourself. When she arrived she was on the couch. Maybe you could call Caesar Milan! And then the begging by the table and petting them while we are eating and letting them lick the plats. Hi Logan, I am living the same situation with my bf. I didnt want him on furniture which he has done and not in our room. So stupid. When we started the relationship, it was big problems with his doga chihuahua. Because your unhappiness is only your fault sweetheart. We have a 7 month old baby and he is choosing his dog. About a year ago he started asking me if we could get a dog, reluctantly I agreed on the condition that he takes full responsibility for it. He has 2 dogs. I can EMPATHIZE.. In his defence he never realised when we got together how important animals are to me, in fact I think it has increased once I knew we would never have a family. Even though you may not understand it, you need to respect other people and their love for them. Its not her, its him. The hair drives me crazy!!!! This works greatespecially if this is a smaller dog. All rights reserved. They lack human thought and cognitive ability but she trained them to misbehave by rewarding bad behavior. In my experience, if you both dont see pets in the same light, I am fearful for you, that this pet will only cause more issues than your own happiness in this relationship, especially if you will be far away from family and friends. I dont want to be a police officer in my own house and I dont want to build a strong foundation for our married life together. He's allowed to have a dog. Think about whether the dog is too attached to you. If youre the one who brought the pet into the relationship, be prepared to do a little extra work. In fact, there is nothing wrong with that if you meet all the needs and wants. I stated I would not and she leaves. You are most definitely not overreacting. Im literally devastated my dream, as silly as it may seem to some, has just died. Most all dogs shed which leaves hair EVERYWHERE. I have asked for the dog to go to his mothers. Hes a good dog but senses that my husband doesnt like him so hes afraid of him. Wishing you the best! She continues to talk about this dog like its a person which I have to tell her a dog is not a person or a child, it is an animal. I wish you happier days . It is all over his work clothes because, of course, the dog rides shotgun in the vehicle. Training was going well but unfortunately, fianc decided to go against every step I took to try to ensure he was a well behaved little gentleman. So this is not exactly regarding to your comment, but towards mainly the women with dogs having these issues in their relationship. One study found that the average dog causes 2,000 arguments in his or her lifetime. A dog should NEVER get priority over either of those under any circumstance. Now you have to fully commit and promise that you will never leave this person no matter their flaws after having them make such a big emotional sacrifice for you. He sees the dogs as his babies and cant do any wrong! My God there are some idiots commenting on this thread. I told her they dont love you because they lack human thought to love. I have always thought to myself that I could never get together with someone who had ever been cruel to animals, so I broke up and stayed on my own reflecting for a few days. That just sounds down right cold hearted. Have a nice day! My husband had this dog prior to us getting married. They are so demanding, dirty, hair is everywhere all the time, even though I sweep/mop daily. I can put myself in his shoes in many ways but not with that thing. I feel sorry for this dog, and hope you get the dog placed in a loving home that WANTS him. It doesnt matter how strongly your spouse clings to this decision. I live with my boyfriend, his chihuahua and my labradoodle and I cannot stand his dog! Its truly an epidemic! When he does try he acts sad the whole time like Im mean and hes done a mean thing to her. Lets just say 1 more time that dog is gone!!!! Not only did the dog precede the boyfriend, but I am completely responsible for him. my question is , is it wrong of me to get upset cause the dog gets all the attention and I barely get any. I got rid of my dog because of the agreement we made but he still has his dog a year later. Id say if he leaves: good riddance!! Are you a selfish, immature bitch? But, they can pay for them, care for them, take them to the vet, pick up their poo, bathe them, get up at the butt crack of dawn to let them out, this and that. One time she pooped on my daughters bed near her pillow. No way. If I argue with him that he needs to take care of these dogs he will just promise to help and will help out for one day then quit. Dog ownership is a LOT of work! I wish the best for you from one dog lover to another. Then you need to take action to solve whatever issue the dog has with that promise on your hand, resulting in the husband/boyfriend refusing to get rid of the dog. But I guess you are right, for the life of the dog the smell will remain. If IT doesnt go,he cant bare to leave IT ALL alonee. Maybe it would be easier to see our side of people as well than just bash us and tell us to take the high road. Ive always had cats growing up, and honestly dogs do not mesh with my personality very well. The day she was put into an assisted living home the dogs came to our house with no discussion between us. I actually think its very gross to have dogs in the bed, there was even black stuff on the pillow from the dog laying on the pillow, and even drips of pee and they never get showered or anything. So sad. Im sure this isnt the answer you want to hear but its the answer you already know: its time to move on. He gets upset and says his babies do no wrong. The dog is all over the couch, and heaven for bit I leave anything on the couch that might stop the dog from getting on their at night to sleep; which the dog as an orthopedic bed that he bought him. They get jealous when we are hugging and start whining. Get with the program, girl and do the right thing. They need to be given lots of credit. To be honest, we cannot complete the obedience train on a specific day because it is a consistent and ongoing process where you can teach the dog new tricks and commands every day. He does nothing with his dog but cater over it. i really dont know what to do. It was my birthday gift. Secondly, he is just used to the way his dog is, and all her habits, so a new dog is going to take some time to adjust to. When we first got her she was doing fine. I take care of him for the most part but he also takes him out when hes going out anyways. Sweety this is not going to be easy to hear and believe me I speak from experience. I would never allow an animal to usurp me ever again. (He still pretend mutt his child/partner). ive expressed my concern, and i get shut down, immediately, with her constantly defending him. I truly love our husky, but this new dog that my husband seems to love is driving me nuts. Then the animal bared her teeth and chased him away. Supervising: You need to take the responsibility to supervise your kids and watch all the time not to play with the dog until your dog trainer recommends doing so. Most importantly, you need to control yourself while talking without starting a quarrel. I compromised on many things. I hate how they get into things and chew things up. Learn from my mistake. you dont want the dog becoming agressive..thats responsible of you.men are so selfish.maybe he got the dog to try to make u jealous and since youre bonding with the dog it upsets him.i cant say what the best thing to do is but i would take the dog and leave.lol.in my case my husband had this totally spoiled bad mannered rescued dog that he knew was abusd and wasnt right in the head from before we met..i guess it filled a void of lonliness in his life but he didnt try to train it and just allowed it to have free run of everything it was agressive before he got it and he did nothing to retrain it..ive never felt safe around the dog because i have kids.anything i tried to do to train the dog he undid by allowing the dog to disobey me and even run me out of our bed at night..letting it continue to be a god walking among mortalssigh..i kept telling him i dont feel safe ..if youre not going to help me retrain the dog then it needs to be rehomed because its not safe around kids and youre not helping me any progress i make is undermined..he accused me of hating the dog even said i wanted it dead..that was not ever what i wanted.he put the safety of our kids second to his spoiled bad petyet he refused to take any time with the dog to help re train himi posted here looking for advice last week..i felt this dog would harm one of my kids eventually because it nips playfully and my husband never took my concerns seriouslytwo days ago the unthinkable happened ..the dog jumped out and bit my two year old in top of the head for no reason what so ever and as fast as i could move it was unstoppable..im just glad i got to him in time before it was worsebut my poor baby was mortified bleeding screaming it was awful..the wound is small but still if he is capable of that he will do it again and im jot willing to take that chance plus im pregnant too and i never wanted this dog around my babies especially a newborn..i kept being brushed aside like my concerns were a jokenow my baby has a wound that we have to watch for signs of infection..thank god its not serious but it drew blood and that was the last strawi told him this is it the dog must go or i willand even faced with pictures of what his dog did he was in denial about how bad this animal ishe made excuses like well maybe we should have walked him more or maybe the baby scared him what did the baby do for him to bite her.nothing.she did nothing. 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